You Are Resilient…… A Brief Note to Counselors Across the Globe!

As we continue to face the uncertainty of this global pandemic that is impacting the lives of millions, I wanted to reach out and remind each of just how important you and your skill set are during this time.

You are “ESSENTIAL” in every sense of the word.

You all provide the world with HOPE in the most darkest of dark moments.

You are willing to give of yourself in ways that are unimaginable to most.

You carry the burdens of others on your shoulders, heart, and mind; yet, you continue to keep a smile on your face and manage to keep your life and family lives in balance.

You are resilient! You don’t break, even when you are stretched ever so thin!

In all of this, I want each of you to know that YOU ARE APPRECIATED and are making a difference in the lives of others.

Remember to make yourself and your family a PRIORITY and Practice SELF-CARE daily.

Happy Counselors Awareness Month of all Counselors across the Globe!

“Real Men Cry”: The Cathartic Release of the Pain They Felt

Over the past month, the world has watched as many athletes mourned the unexpected and death of a Basketball Icon and his daughter, Kobe and Gianna Bryant; along with seven others.

Many watched as Lebron James rallied not only the Lakers Organization but the Lakers fan base.

Others watched Shaq, a man a tall stature, appear to look solemn and lost, thee day after Kobe’s death as well as right after the Dr. Dre tribute during All-Star weekend.

We as a society felt their loss, sadness, disbelief, and too struggle with understanding how something so tragic could happen.

We were unprepared and wasn’t for sure if we’d be able to embrace this reality.

I can’t even begin to recall how many wives and ladies on facebook during the last month has alluded, through their post, to the emotions their husbands, boyfriends, and male friends were experiencing and expressing as they grappled to not only accept that Kobe had perished but also, to an extent, faced the reality of their own mortality.

Tears formed and they had begun to allow themselves to become vulnerable.

They found comfort in knowing that as they cried they were in good company and had no reason to hide in shame.

As a result of the untimely death of Kobe and Gianna Bryant; many, to include men, were able to have a cathartic experience.

Crying, according to research, has been found to be cathartic in nature. More specifically, the receipt of social support, experiencing a resolution to the event that caused the crying episode, and achieving a new understanding of the event are positively related to catharsis (Bylsma, Vingerhoets, & Rottenberg, 2008).

Crying, despite what society my think, doesn’t make a man appear weak.

Crying allows individuals, especially men, the ability to cleanse their soul by releasing suppressed emotions and the opportunity to experience healing.

Over the last few weeks, there have been many who have experienced healing in a way they never would have imagined, gaining a new perspective on their lives and the lives of others around them.

They’ve challenged societal perception of men.

You know the perception that “real men don’t cry” or better yet, “men who cry are weak”.

Those are the perceptions that have held men captive to their emotions for to long, yet, now that they have had the opportunity to begin releasing them and become comfortable with those emotions they had buried deep down inside.

Real men do and should cry. It’s okay! This past month has proven such!

References:

Bylsma, Lauren & Vingerhoets, Ad & Rottenberg, Jonathan. (2008). When is Crying Cathartic? An International Study. Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology. 27. 1165-1187. 10.1521/jscp.2008.27.10.1165.

5 Random Acts of Kindness to Brighten Someone’s Day

February 17 has been designated as Random Act of Kindness Day or #RAKDay, and is receiving increasing attention as a day that we think about others and show them through small gestures of kindness.

Today, U Matter Consulting, Counseling, and Clinical Supervision wanted to provide you with 5 Random Acts of Kindness you could to brighten someones day, today…..

1. Text a friend(s) some positive words of encouragement

2. Invite a friend/family member/co-worker to lunch or dinner

3. Give someone a hug

4. Smile and Say Hello to people you encounter througout the day.

5. Send/Call/Text “Thank You” notes to individuals who have inspired you and/or made a difference in your life.

Lets show Kindness and Made a Difference in the Lives of Others, each and every day!

We’re Re-Branding!!!!!

Have you noticed the change in our name?

Over the course of the last few years we have been fortunate to expand several of our services which has led to us re-branding and updating our name.

No longer are we known as U Matter Consulting and Counseling…..

We are now Officially known as U Matter Consulting, Counseling, and Clinical Supervision.

In the process of our re-branding, in the coming weeks we will be annoucing some other changes that will allow us to better serve our clientele, partners, and community.

We are truly Grateful for all of you!

Welcome to U Matter Consulting and Counseling, LLC

Do you feel like LIFE gets in the way and you are tired of having no energy left at the end of the day? Do you desire to lead a more fulfilled, stable and happier life?  Are you ready to put yourself first and take care of you?  If you have answered yes to any of these questions, then you have come to the right place.

Welcome to U Matter Consulting and Counseling, LLC.

U Matter Consulting and Counseling, LLC, based in Southeast Georgia, is dedicated to providing a wide spectrum of professional consulting and counseling services within the Southeast Georgia community that will empower, enhance, and improve the overall quality of life.

The practice goal is to help individuals gain a new perspective and improved quality of life by addressing the past and present person as well as becoming a community resource addressing mental health and personal growth needs, promoting awareness and prevention through seminars, trainings, and workshops.

The vision of U Matter Consulting and Counseling, LLC is to guide individuals through the process of change, utilizing a collaborative approach so they may experience the life they desire, transforming individuals into their best.

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